Thursday, February 05, 2009

Brother update....

My life has been consumed with work and brother. No room for anything else right now. Yesterday I turned 60. YIKES!!!!
Tuesday evening my brother went in for a simple procedure. They needed to put a port in his chest for the chemotherapy and other shots. He was coming out of surgery and was getting sick and aspirated some puke. He turned purple and was on the way out and they resusitated him and got him breathing again. He was put in the Intensive Care Unit. Sherry (his wife) called me about 6:30 and told me. I went to the hospital (I am 3 minutes away).It was touch and go all night. I left about 11:30PM wondering if he'd make it through the night. I went to work yesterday for a few hours then came home and sat with Mike a few hours. His breathing is agonal. He is close to death. He can talk with us, get up and sit on the potty chair but he is sleeping the rest of the time. The family decided to not take any measures for keeping him alive. No oxygen, no feeding tube, just pain medications. He pulled out the tube going down his nose. We might get him home tomorrow so he can die at home comfortably. This was so hard for all of us. Yesterday was the letting go day. I had to leave work at noon. I'd go into crying bouts.
It could take up to 2 weeks for him to die. He is a fighter, so maybe longer. Or...he could go any minute. Only God knows when he is to go.

My boss gave me 6 roses for my birthday. 5 beautiful apricot colored ones and one red rose. I took the red rose to my brother and taped it on his bed rail.

Thank you all for the kind words and prayers. I feel them.

12 comments:

Sally said...

Phyllis, I'm holding your hand in my heart, and praying for God's will for your precious brother.

Bobbie said...

Belated birthday wishes to you, Phyllis, although your birthday was probably the last thing on your mind yesterday.
I hope they are keeping Mike comfortable and free from pain. It's all in God's hands now.

(((((hugs)))))

Anji said...

Belated Birthday Wishes. I'm thinking of you all.

Phyllis said...

Sally....I feel your prayers, thanks.
Bobbie....They wouldn't let me forget my birthday!! HAHAHA I was supposed to go out with some friends, so instead they brought dinner and decorations to my house to share with Sherry & Galen.
Anji....Thank you. I will get back to blogging and visiting everyone when my heart gets into it again.

Mary Lou said...

Yeah, and I didn't get invited! I had to go home and spend it all alone!!! sigh!

esther said...

I'm very sorry about your brother, Phyllis.

Brenda said...

I pray your pain and his will ease Miz Phyllis.

Herman Verbrugge said...

Belated Birthday, good wishes for health, love, luck and freedom for you Phyllis. 60 Is a crown year (Elisabeth). The next 10 years you are in your 60's.

Carla said...

And a belated Happy Birthday to you. Though I know you couldn't enjoy this one. I'm so sorry about Mike.

Phyllis said...

Mary Lou!!! Debbie said she invited you and you told her you had to go swimming!!!

Dick said...

A belated birthday greetings from me also along with prayers for you and your family. This is going to be a hard time for all of you but it does sound like you have accepted it and know that even though we don't always agree, things happen the way God intends them to. You and Pat's brother share the same birthday although he is 5 years older.

Donna said...

Praying here for you all sweetie...and Happy Birthday...hughugs